My name is Unity and the dictionary defines me as: “the state of being one, a whole or totality as combining all its parts into one. It also defines me as the absence of diversity; unvaried or uniform character, oneness of mind, feeling, etc., as among a number of persons; concord, harmony, or agreement.

According to Psalms 133, “it is good and pleasant for brethren (in this case, husband and wife or two people in a Godly relationship) to dwell together in unity, it is like precious oil poured on the head, running down on the beard, down upon Aaron’s beard, down the collar of his robes. It is as if the dew of Hermon were falling on Mount Zion. For there the lord bestows his blessings, even life for ever more.” The above scripture depicts that I, unity, am precious, divine, and a generator of blessing. Most couples do not realise my importance and that without me, they are not able to achieve much together. As the dictionary describes me, wherever I am present, you will experience oneness of mind, therefore two cannot become one flesh unless I am there with them. I am the one who binds the father, the son and the Holy Ghost together. Hence why the bible refers to me as a spirit as seen in Romans 15:15. I am a fruit of the spirit.

Whenever I am invited and allowed to stay in a home or a relationship, I become empowered to assist two people or a group of people to head in the same direction, achieve congruence of purpose and oneness of mind, build trust and achieve a dream bigger than them. However, whenever I am despised or stifled in a relationship, people begin to speak in different or multiple languages, begin to live chaotic lives, speak less, argue/fight, get frustrated, become confused and in the end, get shortchanged for their labour because I cannot generate much blessing when I am absent or stifled. The physical presence of two people in a home or married relationship does not guarantee my presence as I am invincible and although you can see the evidence of my presence most times, sometimes, this is not so evident because some people are able to pretend that I am there when I am not.

Let me share with you some of the things that choke me in a relationship. I must remind you that I am very flexible and adaptable and whilst I can dwell amongst two people, I can also dwell amongst one thousand people so long as they all recognise my presence and importance. The same way I can be poured on Aaron’s head as seen in Ps 133 is the same way I can run down his beard and down the collar of his robes therefore I am versatile. However, I can be choked or stifled by things you would consider simple and little such as, lies, infidelity, selfishness, ignorance, not abiding in the spirit of God through whom I have full expression, total independence on self, lack of mutual respect for each other and sometimes unrealistic expectations. Although not an exhaustive list, some of the things that make me thrive are: unconditional love, meaningful communication, abiding in the spirit of God, acknowledgement of my role, ability to receive my help, mutual trust, respect for one another, honesty and openness.

Do you remember the story of the tower of babel in the bible? I remember that at the time when men decided to build the tower, they had oneness of mind and purpose, therefore, you could say I was there although not physically but my fruits were. As a result, these groups of people were able to begin building a tower that would enable them to see where God was. However, God knew that if he didn’t do something really soon to tamper with me, then there would have been nothing impossible for them to achieve which they planned to. Therefore he (God) again tampered with one of my fruit being oneness of language. Remember I said earlier on that I am never seen in my physical state but you would recognise some of my attributes and one of them is that where I am, there is oneness of language and people speak, not necessarily in the same language in the literal sense but they understand each other because they are speaking from the heart.

You may remember the day of Pentecost when the Apostles all spoke in different tongues yet people in the crowd understood the different languages depending on where they were from. Anyway, as soon as God tampered with the language of this group of people, I became choked and all forms of confusion set in to the point that these people could not achieve their original intent to build a tower that reached high into heaven. I hope you are beginning to grasp how I work. Although the language spoken by men and women differ due to their gender differences, nevertheless, when I am present, they are able to understand each other but when I am not, they end up disorientated, angry and head in different directions if something is not done sooner.

If you think or believe that I have been banished from your home or relationship, then you really need to do something fast because all you are getting now is shortchanged blessing as God only pours out his blessing where there is unity. You can begin to embrace me by doing the following;

1, Ask the Holy Spirit for help. Where he (the spirit) is, there I am also. He’s the one who constantly unites you with the father isn’t he?

2. Get real and get back on the drawing board. Acknowledge there is something missing, seek my help and commit to keeping me in your home and relationship. There is no point kidding yourself that you can get to any meaningful destination without me.

3. Remember your first love. Renegotiate on your future goals as a couple/family and remind yourself of why you got married in the first place. Discover your God-given purpose as individuals, couples and family and align them all with God’s purpose. This way, no one will be able to go off the tangent. as you will all be locked into one divine and great purpose which will drive you to the same thing.

I hope you now understand me a little bit better than you did before I introduced myself and I have taken some time to go into some details about me because I realise that you may not have rejected me or stifled me on purpose. Hopefully, you can start to allow me to dwell together with you and your loved ones. You may hear from me again through echoes of my whispering heart journal but I can’t promise. Should you desperately need to hear from me or see me, just follow the steps above and cultivate some of my attributes consistently, and I will be there.